Will You Marry Me?
Will You Marry Me?
What a powerful question: Will you marry me? Not a question to ask lightly, nor a question to respond to without great thought. Deciding to pose this question, or deciding how to respond to it, has life-altering implications.
Now, what if I ask this question of myself? What a novel twist, to ask myself to marry me. Knowing what I know about myself, would I ask me to marry me? And if I asked me to marry me, would I accept? If I should accept, would I stay married to me?
What a powerful set of questions! They get right to the (sometimes uncomfortable?) core of my feelings about me.
Considering how to respond to my proposal requires that I ask myself all the questions I would ask if considering a marriage proposal from another person. Do I love myself? Do I like me? Do I want to spend the rest of my life with me?
Am I trustworthy? Do I keep my promises to myself? Do I treat myself with respect and consideration?
Do I encourage me to follow my deepest dreams? Do I support myself when I stumble? Do I defend me from the criticisms of others?
Do I respect my values?
Do I listen to me? Do I allow my inner thoughts and desires to surface without fear of ridicule and rejection?
Do I enjoy being with me? Is my time alone a pleasant experience or something I avoid?
Granted, I have little choice in the matter of being with me. I am, after all, trapped in close proximity to me. Still, I have a choice when it comes to whom I spend time with—including spending time alone with me.
Perhaps honestly pondering how I might respond to the questions posed above will bring the insight to help me be more like the me I wish to be—the me I would marry.