When the Law of Attraction isn’t Working
The Law of Attraction intrigues and frustrates me; at times—especially in hindsight—I see clearly that I am living the life I attracted. At other times, I believe I’m intent on attracting one thing, but something else keeps showing up. Does the law function intermittently?
When the Law of Attraction isn’t Working
Overheard recently, “Why is all this stuff coming into my life? I don’t want any of this. And don’t tell me I brought it on myself. Why would I do that? I don’t want any of this in my life. I’d have to be crazy to want this.”
Have you ever heard this conversation? Maybe you’ve had this conversation with someone—perhaps with yourself. Sometimes the things that come into our lives seem the exact opposite of what we want. We feel powerless, and all the talk that we can create whatever we want sounds like rubbish. Is it?
It can be frustrating and painful to face a string of disappointing life circumstances. When you intend to create a certain life, it feels like failure when something else results. It’s so much easier to blame someone or something else; then, at least, you’re not a failure—a victim, but not a failure.
Let’s go back to basics. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. There are many popular sayings reinforcing the Law of Attraction: birds of a feather flock together, what goes around comes around, do unto others as you would have them do unto you, the world is a mirror, and many more.
The attracting force is energy. Positive, high frequency energy attracts more of the same; likewise, negative, lower frequency energy attracts more energy that is negative. Emotion adds intensity to this energy; the stronger the emotion, the stronger the attraction. If I feel down in the dumps, depressed and blue, despite wishing to feel better, and thinking I’d like to feel better, the energy I give off will continue to attract more of the same—depressing, negative life results.
We’ve all seen the Law of Attraction in action; we know the world works this way because we can often see the results—in others. We cannot see it as easily for ourselves. A universal law doesn’t just work some times; it works all the time. Gravity always works. Water always converts from ice to liquid to steam at appropriate temperatures. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, only altered in form—always.
Then why does it seem the Law of Attraction fails to work when I want to create a certain result in my life? That’s the question that baffles and frustrates. But it’s the wrong question. If I assume the universal law isn’t working for me, then it isn’t a universal law. Instead, I should assume the opposite—the Law of Attraction is working perfectly. When I accept that the combination of my thoughts and beliefs, my emotions and feelings, and my subconscious intentions and yearnings are generating my life results, I gain the power and perspective to change.
The first question to ask is whether I really want different life results. I must be sensitive to how I feel about the area of life I believe I want to change. Are there mixed feelings there? Do I wish for greater career success while simultaneously feeling terrified of making the changes required to attain it? The energy projected by a combination of conflicting thinking and feeling will continue to attract more of what I’m now experiencing.
Answering this question allows me to move on to the next important steps I can take to attract what I desire. I’ll cover that in the next article, but for now: always, always, assume you’re attracting exactly what you are experiencing. Even when you cannot believe this, believe it anyway. Rather than looking for the reasons behind your experiences, or who to blame, assume you’ve somehow created them and set about creating a different experience by shifting to more positive thinking, saying, and doing. Easily said, not always easily done. But this is exactly what we must do to change our lives.