Seeing is Believing–or is it?
If you’re a person who believes that seeing is believing, you may be limiting your own growth. Seeing is believing may be the test of truth for many of us, but that doesn’t mean that what we see is truth. We tend to see what we expect to see based on what we believe. I may read and re-read this article five times and still not see a misspelling, extra word, or missing word. I read what I expect to see and I believe I’ve seen it correctly.
To foster a foundation for strong personal growth, change
that phrase to read: believing is seeing. What you and I
believe will determine what we see. Beliefs are very strong,
witness the number of terrorists willing to take their own
lives in pursuit of their beliefs. But before we examine the
link between beliefs and self empowerment, lets review our
five senses and the roles they play in our lives.
We obviously rely on our senses for safety and security,
watching for danger around us, listening for unusual sounds
around the home at night, sniffing the air for signs of
smoke, and carefully approaching the hot pan before grabbing
it.
We also tend to depend on our senses to explain the world around us. Many people believe that the world we experience through our five senses is reality. The sayings, “seeing is believing,” and “I’ll believe it when I see it,” represent our dependence on sight to confirm reality. Recall the phrase, “a picture is worth 1000 words?” The implication here is that a picture tells the truth, while words can be deceiving. Now with digital photography, we’ve
learned that we can’t really trust a picture. Even I can easily manipulate a picture to remove or include objects. All is not as it appears.
We all know human hearing is limited. As we age, we lose high
frequency sensitivity. We know that sounds exist that we
cannot hear. Similarly, our senses of touch, smell, and taste are very
limited. Not only do our sensitivities to these vary, but our
interpretations vary too. Something that tastes salty to me
may be perfect for you. Pleasant odors to you may be
distasteful to me.
Scientists, with fair regularity, uncover aspects of our
world well beyond our senses. From black holes to quarks to
dimensions beyond our space-time reality, there is more to
reality than we can currently explain.
It’s not only our vision that sometimes deceives us; our minds contribute, too. We see what we expect to see based on our beliefs. When you stop to think about it, that makes perfect sense. Why would I “see” something that contradicts what I believe? Most of the time we refuse to do that, albeit subconsciously. Scientists even have a term for this phenomenon. It’s called cognitive dissonance, cognitive for thinking and dissonance for harsh inconsistency. We prefer to see consistent with our thinking.
You’ve observed this before with a friend or relative who smokes, but refuses to acknowledge that the risks of smoking apply to them. If you’ve just bought a new object, especially something that you looked for carefully and made a studied decision to purchase, you’ll tend to overlook defects or limitations that turn up because to acknowledge them invalidates your belief that you made a wise decision. Cognitive dissonance gives us blinders that scientists term scotomas, blind spots we can’t see because to see them would require changing a belief.
If you have strong, long term beliefs about certain people
based on gender, age, race, or national origin, you’ll have a
scotoma to characteristics that belie that belief.
Now, what does all this have to do with personal growth?
Well, our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us
give us scotomas, blind spots, about who we are and who we
can become. An example of this is the once broadly held
belief that women are inherently inferior to men in math and
science. The saying, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”
captures another widely held belief about older people.
Don’t get me wrong, the beliefs we hold dear aren’t all bad. In fact, our beliefs can be very helpful to us, but only when they are helpful to us. The empowered person learns to use belief to improve and to grow.
Belief about self is one of the critical components of a
person’s growth. A strong self image is fundamental to the
decision to take over responsibility for one’s life. A person
with low self image very likely will not feel sufficiently
confident to take full responsibility, preferring instead to
let others determine their life direction.
Our beliefs not only impact what we see, but they affect
every aspect of our lives. As Bert Carson said, “We are more
totally confined by our old ideas than a prison inmate is
confined by the walls of his cell.” Beliefs can be our prison
walls or our source of freedom. They are that strong an
influence upon us.
Here are some ways to strengthen your sense of self-
empowerment.
1. Recall your successes. Think about past achievements and recognize the part you played in this success. Refrain from diminishing your role. Instead, give yourself as much credit as you comfortably can.
2. Read about other people’s lives, especially those who have overcome difficult situations to achieve their dreams. These people have the same inherent abilities you have. We’re all created with the natural ability to succeed at our dreams. The primary determinants of success are attitude and perseverance.
3. Allow yourself to consider the possibility that you can achieve whatever you dream. Daydream readily about your successes, encouraging yourself to
visualize how it will be when (not if) you achieve
your dreams.
4. Accept that your beliefs are simply ideas you hold about yourself and the world around you, ideas that you’ve accumulated to help you understand and explain your surroundings. Reflect on beliefs you hold that may be preventing you from the growth you desire; change beliefs that restrict you.
As you gradually increase awareness of the beliefs behind your behaviors, you may find yourself asking lots of questions and searching for new information. Life may not be as black and white as it once seemed, but you will probably feel more alive and more connected to other people.
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