Archive for September, 2006

Integrate Top Strengths for Personal Growth

Tuesday, September 19th, 2006

If you want the greatest sense of fulfillment and the most satisfying feelings of accomplishment without working eighty hour weeks, build each and every day around those capabilities at which you excel. And don’t only do this at work, but weave your strengths into every aspect of your life.

How do we best grow, by working on our weaknesses or building on our strengths? Research indicates we’re happier and more

productive capitalizing on our strengths. This contradicts most management practices for annual reviews, but don’t look for corporations to change their emphasis. More on that in a later article. 

We’ve all had the wonderful experience of spending hours at some task, but thinking only a matter of minutes had elapsed. This is often called flow in psychological literature. Our ideas, thoughts, and creativity simply flow out as if from a fountain of wisdom. We effortlessly apply ourselves to the task at hand, forgetting to eat, sleep, and rest. We simply lose track of time. What a wonderful feeling, to accomplish a task with near effortless application.

When this occurs, when you’re in the flow of energy and ideas you’re likely using your top strengths. Your top strengths, called signature strengths in the field of positive psychology, are not just abilities and competencies. Your top strengths are those abilities at which you excel. Though we all have dozens, if not hundreds of abilities, we have only a handful of abilities at which we excel.

When we use these top strengths we are at our very best. We do the best work, we’re most creative, and we get the greatest satisfaction and fulfillment from what we’re doing.

When we integrate our top strengths into every thread of the fabric of daily life, our lives are very, very good. Those people

you admire who seem to excel in life with little effort and great satisfaction are doing so by capitalizing on their top strengths. They’re integrating their unique abilities into their work and play, into every aspect of their lives. And so can you. 

But first you must identify these top strengths and fully understand how they can contribute to your life. My favorite means of identification is the VIA Signature Strength Questionnaire available at the University of Pennsylvania Positive Psychology research site. Register with an email address and spend ten to fifteen minutes responding on-line to the questionnaire.

Your personalized results will list your top five strengths, called signature strengths, with a percentage number that relates your score on this strength to a very large population. The questionnaire has been validated in many countries and across multiple cultures. I think you’ll find the results enlightening, if not surprising.

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If you would like some assistance at understanding the results of the VIA Questionnaire or at how to integrate this information into your life, send this email. If enough people are interested I’ll set up a free or very low cost group coaching session.
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Of course you know that you’re good at certain things, but it’s difficult to recognize our own top strengths in comparison to others. This assessment does that very well. Along with your five signature strengths you’ll also find your position on nineteen additional characteristics.

Validate the results for yourself. Take each of the five strengths and reflect on how often you use it, how much you enjoy using it, and the results you usually achieve when using it. If one or more of the identified strengths don’t pass your careful reflection, simply cross it off your list. It’s possible that one of the next few strengths on the list should be elevated to take its place.

Now comes the fun part. Creatively apply yourself to incorporating each of your top strengths into each and every day–at home, at work, and at play. At first glance you might think your job is too restrictive, or home responsibilities prevent it, but focus on finding a way to utilize each strength each day.

When you do, life gets better. Life is easier, more satisfying, and more fun. And you’ll be amazed at how much you can do and the quality of your accomplishments.

Though comments are closed, I’d love to hear about your own experiences with your top strengths. Send your story, I’ll feature the top stories in a later article.

Bring Balance to Your Life

Wednesday, September 13th, 2006
You have a cell phone, laptop computer, and a Blackberry. You’ve taken courses on time management and multi-tasking. All in an attempt to squeeze more family and fun time into your busy schedule. But it isn’t working.These days, with fewer people doing more work in most companies and with the overload of information available 24 hours a day, we tend to feel overwhelmed by what we are doing and guilty by what we’re ignoring. We describe this situation as having our lives out of balance.The answer is not more technology nor is it working “smarter.” It is possible to have a busy life while feeling that every day is just the way it should be.Bringing Balance to Your Life is the topic of this month’s Telecoach Discussion.

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~ Bring Balance to Your Life ~

A discussion that will help you lead a balanced, fulfilling life.

Date: September 20, 2006

Time: 7:00 - 8:00 PM ET

Fee: $15.00

Registration closes at 5 PM ET September 19

Sorry you missed this interesting discussion. Send for the Pillars of a Balanced Life described just below to see your life balance. You may be surprised.

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Is your life in balance? You can see a clear visual representation of the balance of your own life with an easy self assessment tool, Pillars of a Balanced Life. Send for your free copy today.

Once you have a clear view of the balance, or lack of it, in your life you’ll be equipped to take these helpful actions:

  • Assure your life is aligned with your values. There is nothing more stressful than to try to live in opposition to your values. We’ll describe at least one easy way to clarify your own personal values during this month’s Discussion.
  • Apply your passions, every day if possible. Doing what you love to do brings its own sweet joy to each day. More at the Discussion.
  • Start saying no to every request of your time and energy that doesn’t align with the important aspects of your life, isn’t congruent with your values, doesn’t allow you to be passionate, and isn’t an opportunity for you to use your signature strengths.

Getting your life in balance is rewarding and fulfilling. What are you waiting for?

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