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What’s keeping you from working whole-heartedly to find your life purpose? Despite the attraction of discovering a purpose to your life and knowing for sure the reason for your being alive, there may be one or more fears that are holding you back subconsciously.
Motivational speaker and retired Master Air Force Sergeant Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, AKA The Pink Biker Chic identifies eleven common fears. Her premise on overcoming fear is that you must first identify the fears holding you back before you can break free of the hold they have on you.
Four Fears Holding You Back
I’ve selected four of Lewis-Fernandez’s eleven fears to illustrate how one or more of these might be keeping you subconsciously resistant to discovering your true purpose in life.
1.0 “Fear of Success – This is actually a fear of achieving your dreams and standing out. Fear of the attention you will receive should you actually realize success… We all have things we want to achieve in life but, by giving into this particular fear, you lose faith in yourself and your abilities, and also faith in those who truly have your best interest at heart and want to see you succeed.”
Though it might seem silly at first to think that the fear of success can keep you from achieving your dreams, it’s actually a very common fear—one I’ve dealt with myself. Finding your true life purpose carries with it an inherent responsibility to live up to that purpose. That’s where the fears creep in. What if you can’t live up to it? What if your life purpose places you in an unpopular position relative to your friends and family?
Rest assured, there is nothing more beautiful and more attractive to others than someone who is fully aligned with purpose. Living in alignment is authentic and attractive, filling the individual with an inner beauty and energy that is much admired by others.
2.0 “Fear of (Inner) Power – (Inner) Power is your proverbial fuel source – where your inner strength emanates from, (and) your passions burn bright. It’s the juice that allows you to keep going in the face of adversity.”
The inner power of living a meaningful life aligned with purpose is the juice that makes you jump out of bed in the morning raring to go. It’s the fuel that attracts others to your integrity and authenticity. Your friends will say you’ve “got it all together.”
The fear that your inner power will cause you to stand out is real. You will stand out, but in such a positive, attractive way that you’ll be amazed you ever feared the result.
3.0 “Fear of Failure – All too often we stop short of attempting something new for fear we might embarrass our self or, worse, fail all together…failure is part of the road toward success and should not be feared but embraced as an opportunity for growth.”
In reality, when searching for the meaningful, fulfilling life you can’t fail. It’s there, deep within your inner wisdom. It’s been there since you were born. Every step you take toward discovering your purpose brings you valuable insight. Every approach, even those that fail to bring insight is a small success, even if you only rule out aspects of your purpose.
4.0 “Fear of Vulnerability – While it can be uncomfortable and downright scary to open your self up and expose your true inner self and your ideas and aspirations to others of importance in your life, doing so can be cathartic – and a true turning point in effecting positive change. Letting down your guard takes courage and strength, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable can help you better relate with people on a more intimate and personal level.”
This might be the biggest fear holding you back. It does take great courage to not only find your life purpose but to declare it to the world. And declare it you will. Once you know your purpose, your words and actions will begin reflecting your purpose. Others will see you for who you are, and they’ll love you for it.
The first time I declared my life purpose, writing it in an article that I published, believe me, I was afraid. Afraid of ridicule and rejection I might receive. But it didn’t happen. It was freeing to make the declaration, and now I do it regularly.
Identify Fears Blocking Life Purpose
If you’ve been on the verge of jumping into a full-blown effort to find your life purpose, but for some reason back down or stop short, one or more of these fears might be holding you back. Look in the mirror, accept and acknowledge the fear(s) as your first step along that wonderful journey to a meaningful, fulfilling life.
Image Courtesy Life on Purpose Institute
Thanks to: Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, an engaging motivational speaker known internationally as The Pink Biker Chic – a brand developed to empower individuals to take control of the handlebars of their lives through the power of PINK: Power, Integrity, Negotiation and Knowledge. Don’t let the pink fool you. Retired Air Force Master Sergeant Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez is a force to be reckoned with. She trains women and men how to re-think and re-direct their energies for higher performance and better bottom-line professional and personal decisions. She may be reached online at www.PinkBikerChic.com