Looking for Real Friendship

Are you looking for friendship, real friendship? Someone you can trust to

truly care about you as a person? There is something very comforting about having a true friend, a relationship that allows

Real Friends

Real Friends

you to be yourself and be liked, respected, and trusted for who you are.

Make Friends Online?

You may be tempted to make friends online. It seems so easy with the advent and popularity of social networks. But can you find true friendship through an online relationship? Possibly, but examining the concept of friendship points out why making friends online is both risky and unlikely to result in true friends.

What is Friendship?

A friend is a person you know well and regard with affection and trust. Obviously, there’s a mutual aspect to this definition—both parties must know each other well, with affection and trust.

Knowing someone well and enjoying mutual trust involves the sharing of experiences and the ability to observe the potential friend’s behavior as well as her words. Looking for friendship online provides access primarily to another person’s words. Their actions are invisible. The saying, “Your actions speak so loudly I cannot hear what you say,” captures the essence of the importance of being able to observe a person’s actions or behaviors.

Best selling author Anne Perry captured the essence of friendship in her novel, No Graves As Yet, with one of her characters making this observation about friendship: “… isn’t the art of friendship very much the selecting of what is important and allowing some of the mistakes to drift away until we lose sight of them?”

A true friend must be able to observe a wide array of behaviors, sufficient to see the human mistakes we all make and then remain a friend anyway. Until someone has observed your human frailty and remained a friend, that person is not a real friend, but an acquaintance—a potential friend.

Walter Winchell said it this way: “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.” Elbert Hubard also observed that “Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you.”

How to Make New Friends

The best way to make new friends, real friends, is to refrain from looking for friendship. Instead, use the universal Law of Attraction to attract friendship by being yourself. Don’t try to make friends. Just be yourself and do the things that naturally arise out of being whom you are. The universal Law of Attraction will do the work by bringing to you the people who are most like you, the real you.

No need to put on airs or pretenses. In fact, that will attract the wrong people into your life. Just be the authentic you and trust that those new people who come into your life will include some real friends.

Feeling overwhelmed and out of balance?
Balanced Life In Ten Weeks
Jerry Lopper, Life Purpose Coach
Member International Positive Psychology Association
The following two tabs change content below.
Jerry's passion is personal development. He has authored six Personal Growth Resources Books and over six-hundred articles. His credentials include BS Electrical Engineering, MBA, twenty plus years of engineering management, fifteen plus years of personal coaching, coach training, and a strong and active interest in his own personal growth and development. Jerry's latest book is What Is Life All About? How Do I Find My Purpose?

Interested in your comments, please...